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December 2, 2013

Am I Asexual?

I think I’m asexual but I’m not exactly sure. I do still have a sexuality, as in I want to date girls, but I don’t want anything sexual. Is this still asexual or is it another thing entirely? I’m gonna go ahead and say that you PROBABLY rest within the realm of the asexual spectrum,…


November 27, 2013

What if I Want to Bind?

I am a queer person with a vagina who has always thought of herself as cis. Lately I have been really wanting to buy a binder because I occasionally very much dislike the appearance and feel of my breasts. I don’t think of myself as anything but a woman and still don’t, but I’m a…


November 18, 2013

Testing the NonBinary Waters

Ive always known myself to be a cis girl, preferring she/her pronouns, grouping myself with girls, etc but Ive never really felt 100% girl??? Only very very recently have I started to consider the possibility of me being any other gender and I’ve started to personally consider myself as agender. I just feel it fits…


November 15, 2013

Handling Invalidation

Hi! I’m agender and I really want to come out to my friends and family, but I feel like they’ll invalidate me and say I’m just shallow by labelling myself (my mom already thinks that the gender spectrum isn’t real and thinks trans* identities are stupid). How did you first come out to people you…


October 28, 2013

Coming Out as Ace

How should I tell my mom I’m asexual? I feel like she won’t understand that it actually exists or she’ll just think I’m trying to get attention or something.  So AVEN actually has a great FAQ section for family & friends, and a lot of the questions presented are questions that you might encounter in…


October 21, 2013

Re-educating Conservative Friends & Family

How do I explain to my very conservative friends and family what queer means? xoxo Oof. Well, it’s not easy and it requires a lot of patience, I’ll tell you that much. What queer means is pretty simple, and could almost be covered in just one sentence, but if we’re talking very socially conservative people…


October 15, 2013

Bodies and Normalcy

I’m a (mostly) cis girl but the last few years I have been growing more and more aware of how much more comfortable I would be if I were male-bodied. I still feel female (whatever that means) but I’ve tried packing and binding and it just feels right to me. I’m really unfamiliar with queer…


October 9, 2013

Femme Lesbian

I’m a femme lesbian and I don’t know how to express that I’m gay, and don’t know how to figure out if another girl is gay. I feel like this is a very basic problem and I’m the only one in the entire gay community who has never had a girlfriend because of it. It’s…


October 7, 2013

Where are the Gay Guys?

Where do I meet other gay guys on campus? College is supposed to be about experimentation and yet all I see are legions of straight couples. While I can assure you that you’re not alone in this frustration, there are definitely ways to find what you’re looking for! That said, it depends on what exactly…



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