Q Center

January 24, 2014

Creating a Safe Sex Space

Dear Queer, I’m interested in sex–particularly, “s**king and f**king.” It’s hard to find safe spaces in the area, though. What can *I* do to create a safe space for others to s**k and f**k?

I’m sorry for taking so long with this question, I was just really having a hard time trying to answer it. This is by no means my area of expertise, and I wanted to make sure I had something of value to get back to you with! Logistically speaking, I have no idea how you would go about creating your own space. However, I’ve been given a resource that I think you would find a lot of use in. The Center for Sex Positive Culture is “a nonprofit, membership-based community center” that aims “to inspire and assist volunteers to produce experiential events where members can explore their sexual interests in a physically and emotionally safe environment.” It caters to a lot of different sexual interests, from what I’ve seen on their website they are very conscious and respectful of interpersonal differences, and they put a HUGE stress on consent and safety (which are the two things I would have been talking about if I hadn’t found out about the CSPC). It looks like a pretty intense place and I don’t know if it would align with your interests but if what they offer isn’t up your alley they still do hold non-sexual socials that are open to anyone, are free, and exist to answer all of your questions. You can also email them at dropin@thecspc.org for more information. I wish I could give you something more concrete, but I think this organization is at the very least far better suited to answer any questions you have than I am, and I’m positive that you could make some really good connections there. Let me know if you have more questions, and good luck!