Q Center

October 7, 2013

Where are the Gay Guys?

Where do I meet other gay guys on campus? College is supposed to be about experimentation and yet all I see are legions of straight couples.

While I can assure you that you’re not alone in this frustration, there are definitely ways to find what you’re looking for! That said, it depends on what exactly you’re looking for. There’s a fraternity here called Delta Lambda Phi that exists solely for gay/bisexual/etc men if you’re interested in community building. And while I’m not here to show the Q Center off, that’s why we exist in the first place; to have a space for queer people to be queer where they otherwise don’t feel safe doing so. And there’s always Grindr and OKCupid. Don’t knock ’em till you try ’em. I’m not in on that scene but advice from a friend on Grindr (which, if you don’t know, is a location-based hook up, and I want to stress that, app for gay men, essentially) is “it’s not craigslist, don’t be creepy, use full sentences, don’t put something like ‘masc4masc’ in your profile”. I do, however, have experience using OKCupid and I honestly really recommend it. One of the options you can take advantage of is, if you sign up as a gay/bi member (it’s free, by the way), is to check off “I don’t want to see or be seen by straight people”. Also on OKCupid you can specify interest in long term relationships, casual relationship/hook-ups, or even just making new friends, I’ve made a few queer friends in the area by starting to talk to them through OKC so I’m all about it. Also it’s super easy to block creepy people and make it a nice experience for yourself! Capitol Hill is really close (just take the 49 bus from 15th up to Broadway) and it’s kind of the center of gay/counterculture communities in Seattle, though not at all what it used to be.

That’s all I can really think off off the top of my head, but remember that it’s the beginning of the year. People definitely use college to reinvent themselves, explore new aspects of themselves, etc., but it’s a major adjustment to make and it’s going to take most longer to be out and open. Your patience will pay off!!

Good luck dude!