I’m Here, I’m Queer, I’m Ready to Lend an Ear

Hi! My name’s Oly, and I’ll be your confidant for the year. I’m here to answer questions, give as much advice as I can offer, and steer you through the challenges present for queer folk transitioning into a new part of their life. While your identities will remain anonymous to me, I want this to be a relationship built on trust, so here’s a little bit about me:

This selfie was taken in a bathroom and the fact that it turned out so well gives me hope.

I’m a 19 year old CHID major who is interested in the way beings interact with one another in the world and in new worlds they create. I work at the Q Center, I’m a volleyball coach, and when I’m home I’m usually mass-consuming some form of media, drawing, or using one of my roommates as a pillow.

I began to identify as asexual in eighth grade, and it’s lead me to take a very critical look at sexuality, how it’s taught, how we think about it, etc. I consider myself to be a sex-positive person and honestly, I know more about sex than my friends who actually want to have it.

I can’t place a date on when I came to terms with my non-normative gender identification, but when I was six years old I asked my mom when my hot dog would grow in, so she was never much surprised. I’ve struggled long and hard with how I want to express my gender, and have resolved into a state of pleasant feminine apathy.

I have spent a lot of my life exploring different aspects of myself, finding ways that my identities fit together, have shifted over time, have been rejected by me and those around me, etc. I’ve also spent a lot of my life talking other people through their developing understandings of self, and while I will try to make it continually clear that I am not a professional, that I make mistakes, that I still have a lot to learn about myself and the world around me, I think I do a pretty good job with it. I don’t have the answers to everything, but at the very least I want you to know that you’re not alone and that there are people here to help.

But that’s enough about me, I want to know about you. What do you need, and how can I help?