Parent Perspective

How do I tell my child that he/she is adopted?


The best time to tell an adopted child that they are adopted when he or she is between the ages of two and four. They don’t need a lot of details because they will not fully understand the situation. The adoptive parents should relay that their biological parents loved them. It is essential that they know that the child found other parents who loved them just as they did ("At what age should I tell my child they are adopted").

survey5-smFrom talking about how to tell the child they are adopted we opted to ask a question to teens on what age they feel that children should be told they are adopted. The question below is only one of the numerous questions on the survey that was made. Teenagers from the ages of fourteen to eighteen were asked to answer the questions. Both, males and females were part of the survey. In this question only two people of fifty answered that they would not tell the child they were adopted. All the others put answers down of what age the child should be told they were adopted. From the results 1 boy out of 18 said a child should not be told at all that they are adopted, and there was also one girl out of 32 who felt the same. Below, the graph shows the rest of the forty-eight teen’s opinions on the ages a child should be told in percentage form.



Is it good for my child to be put up for adoption?-Teens

littlegirl Whether putting your child up for adoption or keeping it, is your ultimate choice. You have to think how you can handle taking care of a baby at your young age. Many factors can come in between you and your decisions. Factors may include college, money, no support, religion and many others. If you start leaning toward putting your baby up for adoption make sure you keep in mind that once you sign your name on that dotted line you no longer have legal rights to your child ("Teen Parenting").

There are many different adoption types where the biological parents are capable to keep in contact with their child. However there are the requirements are for the biological parents to make an agreement on paper. This must state the visitation rights. To give up a child for adoption could seem as something wrong. But when you look at the long run it might be the best and only way out of your situation. To make you less nervous about giving up your child, you can go through a process in which you can search through waiting families to adopt. You can find out what their living conditions are and other important factors such as the religion of the family, and any siblings that your child might have. Therefore the adopter can set up meetings with the family to ask the biological parents any type of questions that the might have.