Being Adopted Affects My Life
No matter what age, the adoption takes place it will always have an effect
on the person or in better terms the adoptee. There are seven different
types of characteristics in which adoption has an effect. There is the loss,
rejection, shame, grief, identity, intimacy, and control.
Although there are adoptions that take place when the child is too young
to understand, loss is still present and affects the mind subconsciously.
Loss that is unattended to would stay with the adopted child whether it
is in the subconscious or conscious state of mind. The loss is an evolving
process which hinders the growth of the individual and the family development.
The next characteristic is the rejection which can be devastating. In the
adoption process the child goes through meeting families and then finding
out they have not been chosen by them. Once they are chosen though the rejection
from before is still remembered, which leads them into thinking they are
not good enough. In the adoptee feels shame for being adopted. Most often,
this is due to the fact of the withheld information of the adoption. In
grief, this most often happens in situations where the child has been removed
from their family they have been with for a while. The child may feel the
grief of leaving their family even though, it was a negative environment.
Without recognition of the grief it can lead to later depression in the
child or even substance abuse.
It is hard as it is, finding your own identity, but it is even harder when
you have no idea of where you initially came from, your background, or religion.
The adoptee usually tries to find out ways to fit in and belong, especially
in years of adolescents. Intimacy is one thing a person learns as young
as birth. In an adopted child’s perspective they want to avoid getting
close to others and committing. This is because of the fear of the This
is because of the fear of the loss that they have already endured. Even
the intimacy problems affect the relationships between the opposite gender
and their relatives. Going through adoptive families and not being able
to have control over what family that chose them, stunts the growth of self-actualization
and self-control (Life Long
Issues Adoption).
Adoption can have a major impact on a person. We surveyed
thirty-two females and eighteen males in order to find out if they thought
being adopted would affect the personality of the adoptee. Of those surveyed,
two males and nine females said no. We also asked if the students if they
believed that being adopted would make someone different from those who
were not adopted. Out of these teenagers twelve males and twenty-seven said
no. Six males and five females said yes to the question.