INTELLECTUAL
DEVELOPMENT: Four to Five Years |
Normal
Characteristics |
Suggested
Behaviors for Effective Parenting |
Has large vocabulary, 1500
to 2000 words; has strong interest in language; is
fascinated by words and silly sounds.
|
Provide interesting words,
stories. Play word games. |
Likes to shock adults with
bathroom language. |
Ignore bad language, since
paying attention to it only reinforces it. |
Has insatiable curiosity;
talks incessantly; asks innumerable questions. |
Answer questions patiently.
|
Nightmares are common. |
Accept the fright as real.
Help the child gain power over the experience (e.g., a
"magic" light to freeze the monster). |
Has imaginary friends and
active fantasy life. |
Don't ridicule or
underestimate the importance of fantasy in the child's
life. |
SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT: Four
to Five Years |
Normal
Characteristics |
Suggested
Behaviors for Effective Parenting |
Really needs to play with
others; has relationships that are often stormy; when
playing in groups, will be selective about playmates. |
Send child to a good
preschool or play group. If not possible, encourage group
play, but don't be surprised by disagreements or child's
behavior toward different playmates. |
Likes to imitate adult
activities; has good imagination. |
Allow child to participate
in adult activities which he/she can manage, e.g.,
dusting, setting the table, filling pets' water dish. |
Relies less on physical
aggression; is learning to share, accept rules, take
turns. |
Expect child to take simple
responsibilities and follow simple rules, such as taking
turns. |
EMOTIONAL
DEVELOPMENT: Four to Five Years |
Normal
Characteristics |
Suggested
Behaviors for Effective Parenting |
Exhibits a great deal of
name calling; can be demanding and/or threatening. |
Keep a sense of humor. |
Often is bossy, belligerent;
goes to extremes, bossy then shy; frequently whines,
cries, and complains. |
Provide outlets for
emotional expression through talking, physical activity,
and creative media. |
Often tests people to see
who can be controlled. |
Establish limits and adhere
to them. |
Is boastful, especially
about self and family. |
Provide opportunities for
talking about self and family. |
Has growing confidence in
self and world. |
Strengthen positive
self-esteem by pointing out the things child can do for
self. |
Is beginning to develop some
feeling of insecurity. |
Assure the child that she/he
is loved. |