PHYSICAL
DEVELOPMENT: Eight to Nine Years |
Normal
Characteristics |
Suggested
Behaviors for Effective Parenting |
Is busy and active; has
frequent accidents. |
Sympathize and comfort.
|
Makes faces, wiggles,
clowns. |
Don't take it seriously. |
May frequently urinate as a
result of anxiety.
|
Be tolerant; it's not
deliberate. |
Has good appetite; wolfs
down food; belches spontaneously; may accept new foods.
|
Except for belching,
rejoice! |
Has improved health with a
few short illnesses. |
Rejoice again. |
INTELLECTUAL
DEVELOPMENT: Eight to Nine Years |
Normal
Characteristics |
Suggested
Behaviors for Effective Parenting |
Wants to know the reasons
for things. |
Answer questions patiently. |
Often overestimates own
ability; generalizes instances of failure with such
statements as, "I never get anything right." |
Direct child toward
attempting what can be accomplished, but still provide
challenges. Stress what the child has learned and not the
end product. |
Wants more information about
pregnancy and birth; may question father's role. |
Continue to be available to
answer questions. |
SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT:
Eight to Nine Years |
Normal
Characteristics |
Suggested
Behaviors for Effective Parenting |
Demands love and
understanding from mother. |
Love and accept. |
Makes new friends easily;
works at establishing good two-way relationships;
develops close friend of own sex. Considers clubs and
groups important; enjoys school, doesn't like to be
absent, and tends to talk more about it. |
Assist with scouting or
sport groups. Go to activities, such as his/her concerts.
Be a part of his/her school life. |
Is not interested in family
table conversations; wants to finish meal in order to get
to other business. |
Remain understanding of
child's needs and feelings. |
May "peep" at each
other and at parents. Tells dirty jokes, laughs, and
giggles. |
Do not overly focus on
child's behavior. Set reasonable limits. |
EMOTIONAL
DEVELOPMENT: Eight to Nine Years |
Normal
Characteristics |
Suggested
Behaviors for Effective Parenting |
Has more secrets. |
Provide child with a locked
box or drawer. |
May be excessive in
self-criticism; tends to dramatize everything; is very
sensitive. |
Do not criticize. Encourage
efforts. Teach that others also make mistakes. |
Has fewer and more
reasonable fears. |
Build on their confidences. |
May argue and resist
requests and instructions, but will obey eventually. |
Keep directions simple;
avoid "I already know" responses by not
over directing. |
Likes immediate rewards for
behavior. |
Provide small but meaningful
rewards for accomplishments. |
Is usually affectionate,
helpful, cheerful, outgoing, and curious; can also be
rude, selfish, bossy and demanding, giggly and silly. |
Allow expression of negative
emotions while maintaining limits. Be patient with
giggling and accept humor. |