DIMENSIONS Autumn 2007

LET EXPERIENCE SPEAK

As I write this, Iím getting ready to visit my parents, who live 2,000 miles away. My mother is in the middle stages of dementia, and my 84-year-old father is her primary caregiver. I visit every two to three months to see how my father is holding up and to offer whatever support I can. I feel lucky to have the flexibility in my schedule to be able to do this; I know itís a luxury many do not have.

As I pack my bag, I try to remember to pack my patience and understanding along with my clothes. I remember my visits five years ago; they focused on doctorsí appointments, testing, planning, and dealing with my own emotional turmoil as I worried about my momís future.

Now, I have learned that although I still have tasks to accomplish while Iím there, my most important role is to break the monotony and liven up the house. I will cook special meals and have the same conversation with my mom again and again. I will sleep in the upstairs bedroom next to my parents, because if I choose the downstairs room (which I really prefer), Mom will worry constantly about where I am. I will graciously accept her offer of clean towels, even though I already have a huge stack of them in my room. I will try to get my dad to go out for a walk each day on the trail he helped build. I will also take some time for myself every day, to exercise and read and remind myself that weíre all doing the best we can.

Cheers (and tears),
Rebecca
Seattle: October 2, 2007


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